Although in theory Tantra and BDSM are two totally different practices, in practice they become two completely compatible worlds, so they should be able to unite in what has been called Tantric BDSM.
Today, we will see in depth the result that you can obtain from this incredibly addictive combination of erotic techniques. We will learn what polarity and presence are and how to use them for our sexual pleasure.
BDSM and Tantra: two sides of the same coin?
Tantra, in the eyes of the Western world, has become synonymous with tantric sex. When we think of Tantra we see in our minds an image of two lovers immersed in a pleasant mystical and spiritual sexual experience.
It is very common to see Tantra as a practice totally opposed to BDSM, since it is based precisely on finding ecstasy in slavery and discipline, sadism and masochism, dominance and submission. Likewise, BDSM offers an immense variety of activities that range from the master who handles the whip to the slave who receives all kinds of humiliations.
However, despite the different methods to achieve physical pleasure, BDSM and Tantra are two branches of the same tree whose roots have a common origin.
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Polarity and presence: the balance point of sexual tension
These two qualities, polarity and presence, are active in both practices: BDSM and tantric sex.
● In tantric sex, polarity is expressed as the action of giving and receiving sexual energy.
● In BDSM, polarity is expressed as the action of dominance and submission.
The sexual tension emanating from the polarity is what gives life to a complete erotic experience of two people endowed with a different sexual essence.
Imagine that you are in a BDSM scenario in which both partners are dominant. That is, both long to give and neither is willing to take on the role of slave.
Now think of a Tantric sex scenario where both want to receive the sensuality of Tantra and neither is willing to offer it. These two hypothetical situations indicate that both tantric sex and BDSM are based on the differences in energy and the sexual tension that originates in the polarity within the couple.
What is presence?
Presence in BDSM is the active awareness of the consented erotic pain of the one who inflicts that pain and the one who receives it. It’s easy to spank your submissive partner or let your dominant partner spank you, right? What is not so easy is being present in the here and now. That presence emanates particularly from tantric sex.
Therefore, when we talk about presence, we delve into the main key that turns BDSM and tantric sex into tantric BDSM.
When we refer to presence, we are talking about being aware of the here and now while having a sexual relationship.
There are many methods to practice presence. And this is where the highly valued meditation in Tantra begins to play a fundamental role. It is then that meditation becomes the main tool of BDSM, since it causes each member of the couple a state of physical and mental calm that helps maintain control about spanking, humiliation, restrictions and any other consented practice that is part of Bondage and Sadomasochism.
Tantric BDSM and consciousness
At this point, we can already understand that BDSM goes far beyond giving or receiving exciting sensations. It is about that, in each action that we receive or give to the other, we are able to be fully present and in control at all times.
Thanks to the awareness that presence gives us, we can carry out a fluid and dynamic exchange of sexual energy that translates into erotic pleasure at its maximum power.
How to be present during a tantric BDSM experience?
Below, we will give you three essential tips to achieve a deep presence in your tantric BDSM practice.
1. Keep your game always safe and consensual. This is essential to promote presence and not only because of the mere awareness that is acquired in the act itself, but also because of the peace that it grants to all those involved by having the security that no harm will be accidentally done to anyone. Imagine what would happen if you felt threatened or insecure, worry would not let you enjoy yourself as you deserve, right?
2. No distractions. Take care to carry out your practices in a place where nobody can bother you or where there are objects that can distract you.
3. Breathe evenly. Always accompany your experiences with calm and rhythmic breathing.
And remember, presence and polarity are the essential keys to practice a tantric BDSM so exciting that you achieve an ecstasy completely out of the ordinary and unforgettable.